1. Susan
    July 8, 2014 @ 11:26 am

    This is perfect Vicki. Working moms can’t be there all the time and don’t choose to work to feel disconnected. It’s constant balancing and quality vs quantity. I actually feel like I’m a better mom because I work. I’m teaching my daughters that they can achieve dreams and be a mom. It also gives me a sense of accomplishing something myself while also raising good citizens.

    Everyone has to understand that moms come in all shapes and sizes. One size does not fit all. Or determine good or bad mom.


  2. Daria @ Mom in Management
    July 8, 2014 @ 1:23 pm

    Absolutely adore this post! You have captured so many of the issues/facets of being a working mom. I’d also like to mention that many employers are becoming more aware of the value of work/life balance and are allowing the flexibility to be able to go on those field trips and volunteer in the classes. While it’s not perfect and you do miss some things, SAHMs miss things too. A tooth can fall out and first steps can happen while they are doing groceries or at lunch with a friend. The only way to not miss any time is to have your kids with you 24/7 and to be honest I think that comes with its own price of not modeling healthy “me time” and fostering independence in your kids. But really, why this divide between working moms, stay-at-home moms, work-at-home moms? We ALL are doing the best we can and making the choices we think are best for our families. What works for me may not work for you, same as what works for my oldest doesn’t work for my middle child when it comes to incentives and discipline. The beauty of life is in our differences and our unique journeys, isn’t it?


  3. Rajean
    July 8, 2014 @ 3:34 pm

    YOU said it! I have experienced both sides and I feel fortunate and blessed, as well as frustrated and stressed. I am happy I studied gymnastics because some days I am very flexible and other days I fall off the beam.


  4. Amy
    December 7, 2014 @ 12:40 pm

    One thing, not touched on, is lifestyle. Working Mother’s cannot always join a happy hour after work or have time to attend a holiday event. We have to pick up our kids from the bus or care giver. In my case, on my longer days, I have to relieve my husband from being home, so he can go to his second job. Working Mother’s have to do all the things, stay at home Mom’s do. However, we spend the majority of our time in the workplace first. We are tired, exhausted and when do arrive home, we don’t have a lot of energy. We need to get dinner going, homework started, baths, everything prepared for the next day and some rest. So if you are working Mother, stop feeling you have explain yourself all the time. Just do what you feel you can handle! We cannot make it to everything and it’s ok.


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